We’re All Great!

Greatness exist in all of us, it’s not esoteric, a mystery or a secret, we all have it within us to be great and we’re born complete, with all the tools needed!

This is who I am, what I believe and I’m going to do what’s needed to achieve my goals. That’s it, yes it’s that simple but we tend to complicate things for ourselves by looking for complexities and sabotaging our own lives with the crap we seek and we find. Yes, we seek and we find crap that stagnates our growth and in a lot of cases put us in reverse! We must make a behavioral change and not seek complexities, this will enable us to achieve a positive result and move forward.

Where you are, isn’t where you have to be! There’s a higher level of consciousness and existence but you have to show up and be willing to do the work. We all have some sort of talent but how hard do you work at turning that talent into a skill that’s better than the rest? You have to build a strong work ethic and in its growth, you’ll grow too. Grow to believe in yourself, grow in self-worth, faith, honor, respect and project the positive energy needed to achieve anything. This skill has to be nurtured, while others are sleeping, partying or walking around in a delusional state, you’re working, studying to become better and advancing each day. Everyday, you must do at least one thing geared towards where you want to be. I don’t care how small it is, always do your best. The divine spirit and the universe will open up to your desires, if you move towards your goals faithfully!

Represent a positive idea, know that you can really do anything you desire and make this world a better place! You can have an idea and make that idea reality! But first you must believe in yourself! You have to believe that things can be different and you can make a difference! Our thoughts, ideas and dreams are realistic material in the spiritual realm of being. If we visualize and expand our dreams, we can make them reality! You must commit yourself to your goals and move towards them and demand it happen. Commit, believe and do the work. DO THE WORK!  Don’t get off the path! When you encounter something or someone trying to change your direction. Say, “excuse me but I’m not going that way, I’m going over here” and move towards your goals. You’re going to leave a number of people behind and piss them off but that’s O.K., you have somewhere to go, so go! You can flow effortlessly if you’re willing to do the work and have faith and trust yourself. Don’t allow fear to conquer you, let it motivate you, your breakthrough is on the other side of your fear! He who says he can and he who says he can’t are usually both right. Be the one who says I can, because yes you can! Dream, stand-up and go execute!

Let Us Pray!

Start this week off with prayer …….Father in the name of Jesus, bless us while reading this prayer. Open doors in our lives today and give us the spirit to take back everything the devil has stolen. No weapon formed against us shall prosper and nothing the enemy has prepared will succeed. I’m down right now but that only means you’re up to something in my favor. I’m grateful for what I have and what I don’t have, because Lord there are things I don’t want. Give me the strength to do your will. The blueprint has been laid and all I have to do is follow your word, please help me do so! Help me defend myself not only against the physical and mental attacks of the world but the spiritual attacks. These attacks can be stopped by my prayer! Remove the people from my life that mean me no good. Forgive me for my wrongs as I forgive those who have wronged me! Help me know the difference between a good idea and a GOD idea. On my darkest days you lift me up if only I have faith and I’m grateful. Cover my family and friends in prayer protecting them from evil! Whatever you ask of me Lord I will do, I am your vessel, use me to spread your will. In the name of Jesus Christ I pray, AMEN!!!

A Woman’s Independence!

I write this article out of great concern and compassion for relationships between men and women. I write this in hope of opening the minds that are closed tight and those who are stuck. Don’t fight, don’t fuss, let’s discuss this and do what needs to be done to start, “Enjoying A Better You” and better relationships with others. I hear a lot of women say, “I’m a strong independent woman and don’t need a man!” Before I say more I want you to please relax, and with an open mind read this article.

Ask yourself, are depending on others for a number of your needs, or are a number of others depending on you? Remember no one is watching and listening but you, so you can tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth to yourself. If you don’t tell yourself the truth, you’re only lying to yourself, making a fool of yourself and creating problems for yourself, within yourself and your future.

Make a list of what you depend on from others. Are you always calling someone to make repairs at your home? Do you rely upon others for help with your finances or lend you money when needed? Are you depending on someone to support your mental and emotional stability? You must be honest and detailed when making this list, the small things can make a huge difference and they add up.

Also, make a list of things for which others depend upon you. Be sure and include your kid’s needs on this list. I know this list will be long being women tend to take on more for others than they do for themselves.

Now compare the two lists and on the first list ask yourself. What things on this list can I actually do myself? What are the positives of me doing it myself? If there’s a negative point in me doing it myself, what would it be and what would be the negative outcome? Now take a look at the second list. What are you doing for others that they can do for themselves? If you have older children decide what you’re going to start having them take care of themselves. In many situations you can become an enabler for your child, which stunts their growth, clouds their ability to make proper decisions and makes them dependant upon you for things that are totally their responsibility. Just because you’re single, do your friends, family and co-workers expect you to have time to do more things for them? Remember your time is just as valuable as those with families.

Review your previous lists carefully and determine what new priorities you have created. You should have removed items from your first list and delegated items from your second list. If you have honestly looked at how your time is being spent, both lists should now be shorter. What you have actually done is lightened your responsibilities of others and made time to learn something new for yourself.

If you’ve been totally honest with yourself, you should be removing things from your first list and holding people responsible for their stuff on your second list. You will have taken more responsibility for what you can do and allowing others to take care of their responsibilities. Making everyone more INDEPENDENT!

Now those of you who are becoming more independent and those of you who already are, I applaud you and people will love, honor and respect you for it. I’d like to share something with you and stop the myth that’s been wide spread and repeated by women so much they’ve fooled themselves into believing it! “He Can’t Handle a Strong Successful Independent Woman” or “He’s Intimidated by a Woman Making More Money than Him!”

“Men Are Not Intimidated By Successful Independent Women!” Men love successful independent women and it’s one of the main ingredients that make him fall in love with you. So when you say, “He Can’t Handle a Strong Successful Independent Women” you’re lying to yourself and missing the big picture. Odds are your independence (in some cases delusional independence) has made you arrogant, ignorant to your behavior, feeling entitled to commit unflattering aggressive behavior, not becoming when wanting to have a nurturing loving relationship and that’s why you’re by yourself. Not your success or independence!

You will always need to have a life of your own! Don’t ever forfeit that for a man, no matter how much you care for him because you’ll doom yourself and possibly your relationship when you lose your independence. Did you know that men don’t like women that try too hard for them, because it becomes annoying? It’s a clear picture that you have no other interest of your own other than him and he doesn’t desire that kind of pressure to keep you happy. Having your own life is attractive to a man and “He Loves an Independent Successful Woman!” You show signs of independence and individuality; he’ll fall in love with you. It’s exciting to a man to have an “Independent Woman,” he knows she can create something new and exciting without his help, which makes her interesting in his eyes. It also takes pressure off the man having a woman that can make something happen without him.

Ladies, “Men Love Strong Independent Successful Women” and we’re not intimidated by them, we seek them, we love them and we marry them. So stop using that, “He’s Afraid of a Strong Successful Independent Woman Statement” as an excuse as to why you’re alone. You’re alone because of you and your behaviors. For the record, “There’s No Shortage of Good Men” either! I always say to men and women, if you don’t have a good person in your life, “Go Look Into The Mirror and You’ll Be Looking at the Problem!” There are 3.4 Billion men in the world and you can’t find 1. Does it make sense to think 3.4 Billion men have a problem or is the problem within you? When looking at yourself, tell yourself the truth, and make a behavioral change that’ll change your life and who enters.

Don’t limit your thoughts!

Don’t confine yourself by limiting your thoughts and beliefs about you. Your present circumstances may affect your thoughts but they’re not permanent. Circumstances can, do and will change! They may have an effect on you but aren’t the deciding factor in life, so don’t limit your thought’s and belief’s to what is now.

You’re not what’s happening to you right now. You’re how you handle what’s happening to you right now! I’ve always felt you should leave a relationship or situation the same pleasant loving way you entered, never thinking less of yourself but learning from that interaction. We must extract positive information and relieve ourselves of the negative, allowing ourselves to grow forward. You’re the person traveling through your present surroundings; you’re not the surrounding itself.

You can’t allow yourself to be limited to what you see before you, your potential is boundless so think beyond your present circumstance in a positive manner. Only things that matter, are the things you allow too! So give life to the boundless, limitless, unstoppable, loving, honorable, respectful, energetic force you are and know circumstances are temporary. You can’t get down on yourself; worry and anxiety blocks your connection to the divine spirit. You must have faith and keep moving forward, which strengthens your connection with the divine spirit and fuels your future, opening doors along the way.

Never allow your identity to be determined by your present surroundings, circumstances or conditions. Think and live in the boundless arena which is you, eliminating restrictive thought’s of you, that can stunt your growth!

Think and be Free!

“Mellow Into The Moment” and “Enjoy A Better You”