Milo Edwards, In Defense of women of all shades, 10 worse things a man can do! Part I of a VII Part Platinum Series!

Dry Your EyesMilo Edwards, In defense of women of all shades, 10 worse things I feel a man can do! Part I of a VII Part Platinum Series!

I consider myself a sincere man and excellent listener! At times I’m very puzzled by what men and woman say about one another. One of which is when a woman says, “You just don’t understand” or “You don’t get it”! For years, I’ve sought to understand and get it! I’ve listened to woman speak and I must say I found a number of women irrational, selfish, controlling and determined to get what they want at all cost not caring who they step on along the way.

I’ve also had the blessing of talking to women who are genuinely loving, honorable and respectful. These are the women I choose to be around, communicate, appreciate and grow with. I write this note in their defense and to inform men of the 10 worse things I think you can do in a relationship with the type of woman I honor. I’m no authority of nothing but have an open mind and think in depth, removing my ego, so I can get to the absolute truth. Here’s my truth!

For the most part men are surface thinkers rarely going in depth until they’re in a bind and forced to think about the relationship. Their egos keep them in a delusional state, which creates a false sense of what’s real and thought’s based on a false sense and foundation only leads to a crumbling relationship! In defense of men your woman may be one I spoke of in the first paragraph, in that case run but if she’s from the second paragraph, remove your ego, read and grow if you want to keep her.

1. CONTROLLING – You can’t be so controlling and try to dominate your woman calling it love. Your lack of control in the outside world doesn’t mean come home demand this is my castle. Yes it is but a queen lives there too and you must respect that! Stop trying to control the sex too, nurture and she’ll more than fulfill your need!

2. SHE IS NOT YOUR MOMMA – She’s not here to raise you, clean up your mess, how excited can a woman be about a man she has to look after like a child. She will be a good listener, accommodating and uplifting, if you’re working to do the same for her. Stop saying me, me, me and ask her about her day and show a genuine concern about making it better!

3. CONFUSING HAVING SEX WITH MAKING LOVE – Know that having sex is a physical action and making love is an emotional action and expression of a real connection to your lover and trust me they feel it, when it’s real. The holding, cuddling, look into the eyes, kiss and tone of your voice when you speak to her will tell her all she needs to know.

4. LABELING A NEED FOR COMFORT, A CRY FOR HELP! – When she discusses a problem with you, it doesn’t mean jump in, take over and solve it! A woman most of the time needs you to just be supportive, compassionate and nurturing. She can handle her stuff just like you handle yours. Men think fight, women think reason! So be reasonable with her, listen, show concern and a little sympathy, odds are that’s all she wants from you at that time.

5. JUST BECAUSE YOU WANT SEX, DOESN’T MEAN SHE DOES – She’s not a blow up doll and her sexual appetite may be different from yours! Don’t just assume she’s supposed to give you some on demand. Take some time give her that look, gently touch her, kiss on the cheek, she knows you want it. Allow her the freedom to choose and if she say’s no don’t sulk and act childish. She may be saving a little something for you later. Mope and whine, she might just give you a taste so you’ll shut up but if you chill you may get the full court press.

6. SHARE IN PLANNING OF EVENTS – Take the initiative to plan something some times and stop saying, “what ever you want baby”! What she wants is for you to say, this is where we’re going this weekend, baby all you have to do is get dressed. She’ll be excited and relieved she has some time off to think and you took time to plan.

7. ADVICE ISN’T CRITICISM – When your woman suggest you do something a certain way or handle a situation. She’s not attacking you, blaming or condemning you. Stop being so defensive, it makes your woman walk around as if she has to tip toe on egg shells. She has an opinion just like you and it’s usually an honest attempt to be helpful just like yours.

8. LACK OF AFFECTION AND ROMANCE – Affection and romance are very important to woman. You can clip a flower from your front yard and give it to her, she’ll light up. Make her be glad to be a woman and do the things that require a little thought. Something she’s wanted to do, do it on her birthday. Hold her hand, stroke her cheek, listen and remember something she said and put it into action. Be soft and gentle with her emotions! Women want to know they’re loved, simple as that, stop being hard and give it up.

9. HIDING YOUR FEELINGS – Men need to give it up and stop waiting until it’s a major catastrophe before they say what they feel. By then things have deteriorated to a point it may be irreconcilable. It’s a gift from you to others to be vulnerable, what they do with that gift shows who they are.

10. YOU’RE INTEMIDATED BY HER SUCCESS – Maybe this should be number 1 with a bullet. Just because she’s successful and/or more successful than you, is know reason to feel weak and have to try and dominate her to show your strength. A true show of your strength will be to support and encourage her anyway possible. Your fear of people looking at you like you’re a loser is nonsense. You’re a winner and should share that winning attitude with your strong successful woman. Others wish they were in your spot and hope you get weak and fall so they can jump in. Admit and celebrate her success like she’d do yours.

What I’ve written is from my experience, I’ve listened, I’ve learned, I think and hope I understand and I get it!

Authorize to reprint contingent upon credit to Milo Edwards.

Milo6397@aol.comMilo Edwards

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