Realizing Your Full Potential, You’ll Have to Let People Go!

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Milo EdwardsDo you want to realize your full potential? Well you better be ready to piss some people off! People you know will be upset at you stretching out and becoming more than what they thought of you. Anytime you grow beyond someone’s opinion of you, they’ll get upset because you think more of yourself. In their eyes, who the hell do you think you are! So, “Mellow Into The Moment” and know during your growth you’ll have to leave a number of people behind. You must be willing to outgrow the company you keep and claim what the divine spirit has in store for you! It doesn’t mean you’re better than them or should look down your nose at them, you just decided to go beyond the norm! Grow beyond their opinions, don’t feel guilty and find the authentic you. Let them go and find comfort in being you, you’re…

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Published in: on April 11, 2013 at 7:13 pm  Comments (1)  

We’re All Great!

Greatness exist in all of us, it’s not esoteric, a mystery or a secret, we all have it within us to be great and we’re born complete, with all the tools needed!

This is who I am, what I believe and I’m going to do what’s needed to achieve my goals. That’s it, yes it’s that simple but we tend to complicate things for ourselves by looking for complexities and sabotaging our own lives with the crap we seek and we find. Yes, we seek and we find crap that stagnates our growth and in a lot of cases put us in reverse! We must make a behavioral change and not seek complexities, this will enable us to achieve a positive result and move forward.

Where you are, isn’t where you have to be! There’s a higher level of consciousness and existence but you have to show up and be willing to do the work. We all have some sort of talent but how hard do you work at turning that talent into a skill that’s better than the rest? You have to build a strong work ethic and in its growth, you’ll grow too. Grow to believe in yourself, grow in self-worth, faith, honor, respect and project the positive energy needed to achieve anything. This skill has to be nurtured, while others are sleeping, partying or walking around in a delusional state, you’re working, studying to become better and advancing each day. Everyday, you must do at least one thing geared towards where you want to be. I don’t care how small it is, always do your best. The divine spirit and the universe will open up to your desires, if you move towards your goals faithfully!

Represent a positive idea, know that you can really do anything you desire and make this world a better place! You can have an idea and make that idea reality! But first you must believe in yourself! You have to believe that things can be different and you can make a difference! Our thoughts, ideas and dreams are realistic material in the spiritual realm of being. If we visualize and expand our dreams, we can make them reality! You must commit yourself to your goals and move towards them and demand it happen. Commit, believe and do the work. DO THE WORK!  Don’t get off the path! When you encounter something or someone trying to change your direction. Say, “excuse me but I’m not going that way, I’m going over here” and move towards your goals. You’re going to leave a number of people behind and piss them off but that’s O.K., you have somewhere to go, so go! You can flow effortlessly if you’re willing to do the work and have faith and trust yourself. Don’t allow fear to conquer you, let it motivate you, your breakthrough is on the other side of your fear! He who says he can and he who says he can’t are usually both right. Be the one who says I can, because yes you can! Dream, stand-up and go execute!

Published in: on May 23, 2010 at 10:01 pm  Comments (4)  

Let Us Pray!


Start this week off with prayer …….Father in the name of Jesus, bless us while reading this prayer. Open doors in our lives today and give us the spirit to take back everything the devil has stolen. No weapon formed against us shall prosper and nothing the enemy has prepared will succeed. I’m down right now but that only means you’re up to something in my favor. I’m grateful for what I have and what I don’t have, because Lord there are things I don’t want. Give me the strength to do your will. The blueprint has been laid and all I have to do is follow your word, please help me do so! Help me defend myself not only against the physical and mental attacks of the world but the spiritual attacks. These attacks can be stopped by my prayer! Remove the people from my life that mean me no good. Forgive me for my wrongs as I forgive those who have wronged me! Help me know the difference between a good idea and a GOD idea. On my darkest days you lift me up if only I have faith and I’m grateful. Cover my family and friends in prayer protecting them from evil! Whatever you ask of me Lord I will do, I am your vessel, use me to spread your will. In the name of Jesus Christ I pray, AMEN!!!

Published in: on May 16, 2010 at 9:25 pm  Comments (8)  

A Woman’s Independence!

I write this article out of great concern and compassion for relationships between men and women. I write this in hope of opening the minds that are closed tight and those who are stuck. Don’t fight, don’t fuss, let’s discuss this and do what needs to be done to start, “Enjoying A Better You” and better relationships with others. I hear a lot of women say, “I’m a strong independent woman and don’t need a man!” Before I say more I want you to please relax, and with an open mind read this article.

Ask yourself, are depending on others for a number of your needs, or are a number of others depending on you? Remember no one is watching and listening but you, so you can tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth to yourself. If you don’t tell yourself the truth, you’re only lying to yourself, making a fool of yourself and creating problems for yourself, within yourself and your future.

Make a list of what you depend on from others. Are you always calling someone to make repairs at your home? Do you rely upon others for help with your finances or lend you money when needed? Are you depending on someone to support your mental and emotional stability? You must be honest and detailed when making this list, the small things can make a huge difference and they add up.

Also, make a list of things for which others depend upon you. Be sure and include your kid’s needs on this list. I know this list will be long being women tend to take on more for others than they do for themselves.

Now compare the two lists and on the first list ask yourself. What things on this list can I actually do myself? What are the positives of me doing it myself? If there’s a negative point in me doing it myself, what would it be and what would be the negative outcome? Now take a look at the second list. What are you doing for others that they can do for themselves? If you have older children decide what you’re going to start having them take care of themselves. In many situations you can become an enabler for your child, which stunts their growth, clouds their ability to make proper decisions and makes them dependant upon you for things that are totally their responsibility. Just because you’re single, do your friends, family and co-workers expect you to have time to do more things for them? Remember your time is just as valuable as those with families.

Review your previous lists carefully and determine what new priorities you have created. You should have removed items from your first list and delegated items from your second list. If you have honestly looked at how your time is being spent, both lists should now be shorter. What you have actually done is lightened your responsibilities of others and made time to learn something new for yourself.

If you’ve been totally honest with yourself, you should be removing things from your first list and holding people responsible for their stuff on your second list. You will have taken more responsibility for what you can do and allowing others to take care of their responsibilities. Making everyone more INDEPENDENT!

Now those of you who are becoming more independent and those of you who already are, I applaud you and people will love, honor and respect you for it. I’d like to share something with you and stop the myth that’s been wide spread and repeated by women so much they’ve fooled themselves into believing it! “He Can’t Handle a Strong Successful Independent Woman” or “He’s Intimidated by a Woman Making More Money than Him!”

“Men Are Not Intimidated By Successful Independent Women!” Men love successful independent women and it’s one of the main ingredients that make him fall in love with you. So when you say, “He Can’t Handle a Strong Successful Independent Women” you’re lying to yourself and missing the big picture. Odds are your independence (in some cases delusional independence) has made you arrogant, ignorant to your behavior, feeling entitled to commit unflattering aggressive behavior, not becoming when wanting to have a nurturing loving relationship and that’s why you’re by yourself. Not your success or independence!

You will always need to have a life of your own! Don’t ever forfeit that for a man, no matter how much you care for him because you’ll doom yourself and possibly your relationship when you lose your independence. Did you know that men don’t like women that try too hard for them, because it becomes annoying? It’s a clear picture that you have no other interest of your own other than him and he doesn’t desire that kind of pressure to keep you happy. Having your own life is attractive to a man and “He Loves an Independent Successful Woman!” You show signs of independence and individuality; he’ll fall in love with you. It’s exciting to a man to have an “Independent Woman,” he knows she can create something new and exciting without his help, which makes her interesting in his eyes. It also takes pressure off the man having a woman that can make something happen without him.

Ladies, “Men Love Strong Independent Successful Women” and we’re not intimidated by them, we seek them, we love them and we marry them. So stop using that, “He’s Afraid of a Strong Successful Independent Woman Statement” as an excuse as to why you’re alone. You’re alone because of you and your behaviors. For the record, “There’s No Shortage of Good Men” either! I always say to men and women, if you don’t have a good person in your life, “Go Look Into The Mirror and You’ll Be Looking at the Problem!” There are 3.4 Billion men in the world and you can’t find 1. Does it make sense to think 3.4 Billion men have a problem or is the problem within you? When looking at yourself, tell yourself the truth, and make a behavioral change that’ll change your life and who enters.

Published in: on May 10, 2010 at 12:04 am  Comments (9)  

Why Should We Practice Forgiveness?

We’ve all been hurt by the actions of another person. These wounds can leave you with the feelings of anger and bitterness. If you’re a person who doesn’t practice forgiveness you’re setting yourself up to pay one hell of a price for holding on to toxic things that’ll do you no good. But if you choose to embrace forgiveness, you’re embracing peace and a joy filled life.

Forgiveness is the decision to let go of anger, resentment and thoughts of getting even. A large number of people always claim they forgive and let go but that’s not true. We must forgive and with true forgiveness, you don’t get angry when you think about the wrongful act in the future because you’ve let it go. If you get angry about the act after you say you’ve forgiven, you didn’t forgive. Simple as that! Harboring old crap will disrupt and possibly destroy your present moment, blocking your blessings. Forgiving can lead to better understanding of things, compassion and empathy, even for the one who wronged you.

This doesn’t mean that you allow the other person to dodge responsibility for hurting you, it also doesn’t mean you minimize the misdeed. It just means that even though you’ve been wronged, you’re going to have peace and move forward with your life. Leaving the past behind and remaining open to the boundless positive possibilities the future has to offer.

You can’t expect something positive to enter your life when you’re dragging around your past, which clogs up the entrance. Let go and be grateful! Forgiving leads to healthier relationships, low stress, mental well-being and lessens the possibility of anxiety and depression.

We must practice forgiveness in order to grow forward in a positive light!

Published in: on April 26, 2010 at 6:13 am  Comments (6)  

Give Without Expectation of Receiving Anything in Return!

Giving isn’t always about helping someone, it’s about serving. It’s about giving what you have to offer the world without the expectation of receiving anything in return. It’s about doing what needs to be done without being asked to do it. You’ll be giving of yourself and giving attention to things and people around you without taking anything anyway from yourself. Anything less than this is an injustice to the essence of giving and anything more is a potential domination based action.

Give of what you have without expecting to receive anything in return. Do what needs to be done; nothing more, nothing less! Give lovingly and joyously, there’s nothing more to do or can be done. There are many things you receive daily that were given by others out of the kindness of their hearts. We’re all guilty of not noticing these free gifts that are a blessing in our daily lives. We don’t even know what person to thank in most cases. But they were given because it needed to be done and someone took the responsibility to make it happen.

Put forth an effort to give! This is a reward within itself for you, the universe and those who benefit from your thoughtfulness. Sit for a moment and think of what you know needs to be done and go do it.

Someone will be grateful and it will not deplete you, it’ll display the love, joy, kindness and compassion that lives within you! Your service to the world is to share your message and talents! The only responsibility you have is to deliver and not judge!

Why Are People Afraid To Be Alone!

Just because you’re afraid of being alone isn’t a good reason to stay in a relationship. For you to stay in that situation is a betrayal and dishonor to yourself. When you stay stuck in that illusion of  happiness, just to be with someone you lose your connection to your self-worth. At that point you’re being unsupported, unappreciated and/or unacknowledged in your relatioship. When you have to give yourself a reason to stay and think happiness, joy and love is just around the corner, you’re minimizing you! We also often get into relationships with the wrong people just because we are afraid and don’t want to be alone.

I know it’s hard to realize that the way we treat ourselves sets an example for others as to how to treat us, but it’s true. Many of us allow people to treat us the way they have because we have no idea we can be treated better. Being treated badly becomes acceptable because we think it’s better than being alone. I’ve been guilty of it myself and just wanted to hold on to her, just so I could say, “I have a woman!” During my weakened state of being due to unfortunate events in my life. She treated me bad because I allowed her to treat me bad and I was treating myself bad by not loving, honoring and respecting myself enough to know better. That was the ultimate act of me betraying me! The ultimate insult to self-love! By the time I acknowledged to myself what was happening and tried to change it, it was too late. I’d let it go on for so long it became common place to her and I couldn’t change it, she was too comfortable with it. After acknowledging it to myself and trying to make a change, I could no longer claim being a victim. If I stayed, I would be creating and facilitating the abuse, dishonor and disrespect I was receiving. So I left and never looked back! It was hard but every time I felt uneasy about it, I reminded myself how bad I was treated and I had taken enough, time to let go and grow.

There’s nothing wrong with staying in a relationship to work things out but when nothings working it’s time to go. There’s nothing wrong with being alone, it’s better than being treated bad. It allows you time to become more aware of you, heal, heighten your level of consciousness, self-love and get back in touch with your self-worth. Being alone treating your self better will be an example to the next person entering your life how to treat you.

You may think being alone is worse than being in a relationship that isn’t working. Take some time for you to have an open honest conversation with you. Tell yourself the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth! He or she who lies to themselves is a fool! Ask yourself, “Why am I afraid to be alone with me? Why do I continue to allow them to treat me bad? Is this the best I can do? Why do I stay in this relationship? Am I truly loving, honoring and respecting myself? Is this where I want to be? Are they ever going to change? Are they actively working towards change? Write the answers down and read them to yourself out loud! Hear yourself speaking the truth that is coming from within you. Then make a decision as to the direction you want to go and stick to it!

Spend some time with you and you’ll realize you can consult, console and respond appropriately to anything! There’s nothing wrong with being alone sometime. If you can’t stand to be alone with you, how can you expect anyone else to want too!

Published in: on April 12, 2010 at 6:20 am  Comments (10)  

Greatness Is Yours!

Greatness exist in all of us, it’s not esoteric, a mystery or a secret, we all have it within us to be great and we’re born complete, with all the tools needed!

This is who I am, what I believe and I’m going to do what’s needed to achieve my goals. That’s it, yes it’s that simple but we tend to complicate things for ourselves by looking for complexities and sabotaging our own lives with the crap we seek and we find. Yes, we seek and we find crap that stagnates our growth and in a lot of cases put us in reverse! We must make a behavioral change and not seek complexities, this will enable us to achieve a positive result and move forward.

Where you are, isn’t where you have to be! There’s a higher level of consciousness and existence but you have to show up and be willing to do the work. We all have some sort of talent but how hard do you work at turning that talent into a skill that’s better than the rest? You have to build a strong work ethic and in it’s growth, you’ll grow too. Grow to believe in yourself, grow in self worth, faith, honor, respect and project the positive energy needed to achieve anything. This skill has to be nurtured, while others are sleeping, partying or walking around in a delusional state, you’re working, studying to become better and advancing each day. Everyday, you must do at least one thing geared towards where you want to be. I don’t care how small it is, always do your best. The divine spirit and the universe will open up to your desires, if you move towards your goals faithfully!

Represent a positive idea, know that you can really do anything you desire and make this world a better place! You can have an idea and make that idea reality! But first you must believe in yourself! You have to believe that things can be different and you can make a difference! Our thoughts, ideas and dreams are realistic material in the spiritual realm of being. If we visualize and expand our dreams, we can make them reality! You must commit yourself to your goals and move towards them and demand it happen. Commit, believe and do the work. DO THE WORK!  Don’t get off the path! When you encounter something or someone trying to change your direction. Say, “excuse me but I’m not going that way, I’m going over here” and move towards your goals. You’re going to leave a number of people behind and piss them off but that’s O.K., you have somewhere to go, so go! You can flow effortlessly if you’re willing to do the work and have faith and trust yourself. Don’t allow fear to conquer you, let it motivate you, your breakthrough is on the other side of your fear! He who says he can and he who says he can’t are usually both right. Be the one who says I can, because yes you can! Dream, stand-up and go execute!

Published in: on April 5, 2010 at 1:42 am  Comments (6)  

Did I Say That?

Did you ever… Wish you had thought before you spoke? Address a conflict you should have avoided? Allow your emotions, instead of your brain, to guide your communication? Find yourself manipulated by someone who lied, intimidated, or used other dirty tactics? Struggle with giving criticism? Lose your cool with a customer service provider because you didn’t get the result you deserved? Get frustrated by people who gave mixed, unclear, or stealthy messages? Be lead to believe one thing only to have the agenda or script flipped by someone for their benefit?

“Did I Say That!” We sometimes call it a faux pas, a blunder, or a goof—we’ve all had those cringe-worthy moments that make us wish we could hit rewind to erase what we’ve just said. You might be tempted to hightail it out of the room, but that will only aggravate the situation. So you stay with all the intentions of delivering your mea culpa—and make things right.

I recently had such a situation and couldn’t believe what flew out of my mouth. I immediately wanted to stuff those words back into my mouth like a handful of potato chips. But the cat was out the bag and running around the room on fire. I had fallen into a trap, gotten off track and drug into the shallow expressions of a few. I recognized it immediately after I spoke for about 5 seconds but it was too late. Some people can provoke us and we don’t always respond appropriately. “Remorse inevitably follows.”

“Did I Say That!” Here’s what you can do when things like that happens:

Sure you can play mum, rationalize it and pretend you never uttered the unattractive comment, but that won’t change the fact that you said it and people heard you loud and clear. A better idea would be to immediately get back on track and express the positive intentions you had in the first place. Get back on the high road and stay there, don’t try to blend in, “Live In The Truth!” Blending in is what got you in an uncomfortable spot in the first place. Bloopers are understood and happens all the time and you must face it when you do it.

Approach the person or persons, you offended and ask to speak with them one-on-one. It shows your sincere and humility is key, so finish with an apology and ask for forgiveness. Then forgive yourself and heighten your level of consciousness which will help you pay better attention to your choice of words. Don’t allow people to sucker you into damaging the image you’ve built, honestly and based on love, honor and respect. “Watch Your Mouth!” But if you err in word, apologize, forgive yourself and grow forward knowing better! Yes, you said it and they all heard you!

Published in: on March 31, 2010 at 6:52 am  Comments (15)  

Drink From Your Heart!

Take a drink from your heart! If you keep giving to others without giving to yourself, you will at some point become depleted! It’s like pouring water from a jug. If you keep pouring without ever refilling it, eventually, it will be empty. So, how do we refill, recharge, re-energize, refresh and replenish ourselves, so that we will have energy and love to share with others and the universe? The answer is: By Acknowledging, loving, honoring and giving to ourselves!

There are many ways for us to love and to care for ourselves. An important way to love ourselves is to nourish and care for our bodies, eating healthy foods and exercising regularly. Your body is where you live 24/7/365! You may want to “treat” yourself to things like a massage, a facial, a pedicure, a vacation or just a nice leisurely walk.  You can drink from your heart by being in the practice of using positive affirmations. Take some time to come up with the qualities that you most want to embody. Choose two or three to focus on for any period of time and love yourself more. Taking breaks and having fun are important, whether alone or with a friend, you deserve a break today, don’t work yourself too hard, be kind, compassionate and understanding to yourself!

Acknowledge yourself, it’s healthy to bring a heightened level of awareness into your life concerning your success! Say something lovingly to you about you! “Drink From Your Heart!”