Did I Say That?

Did you ever… Wish you had thought before you spoke? Address a conflict you should have avoided? Allow your emotions, instead of your brain, to guide your communication? Find yourself manipulated by someone who lied, intimidated, or used other dirty tactics? Struggle with giving criticism? Lose your cool with a customer service provider because you didn’t get the result you deserved? Get frustrated by people who gave mixed, unclear, or stealthy messages? Be lead to believe one thing only to have the agenda or script flipped by someone for their benefit?

“Did I Say That!” We sometimes call it a faux pas, a blunder, or a goof—we’ve all had those cringe-worthy moments that make us wish we could hit rewind to erase what we’ve just said. You might be tempted to hightail it out of the room, but that will only aggravate the situation. So you stay with all the intentions of delivering your mea culpa—and make things right.

I recently had such a situation and couldn’t believe what flew out of my mouth. I immediately wanted to stuff those words back into my mouth like a handful of potato chips. But the cat was out the bag and running around the room on fire. I had fallen into a trap, gotten off track and drug into the shallow expressions of a few. I recognized it immediately after I spoke for about 5 seconds but it was too late. Some people can provoke us and we don’t always respond appropriately. “Remorse inevitably follows.”

“Did I Say That!” Here’s what you can do when things like that happens:

Sure you can play mum, rationalize it and pretend you never uttered the unattractive comment, but that won’t change the fact that you said it and people heard you loud and clear. A better idea would be to immediately get back on track and express the positive intentions you had in the first place. Get back on the high road and stay there, don’t try to blend in, “Live In The Truth!” Blending in is what got you in an uncomfortable spot in the first place. Bloopers are understood and happens all the time and you must face it when you do it.

Approach the person or persons, you offended and ask to speak with them one-on-one. It shows your sincere and humility is key, so finish with an apology and ask for forgiveness. Then forgive yourself and heighten your level of consciousness which will help you pay better attention to your choice of words. Don’t allow people to sucker you into damaging the image you’ve built, honestly and based on love, honor and respect. “Watch Your Mouth!” But if you err in word, apologize, forgive yourself and grow forward knowing better! Yes, you said it and they all heard you!

Published in: on March 31, 2010 at 6:52 am  Comments (15)  

Drink From Your Heart!

Take a drink from your heart! If you keep giving to others without giving to yourself, you will at some point become depleted! It’s like pouring water from a jug. If you keep pouring without ever refilling it, eventually, it will be empty. So, how do we refill, recharge, re-energize, refresh and replenish ourselves, so that we will have energy and love to share with others and the universe? The answer is: By Acknowledging, loving, honoring and giving to ourselves!

There are many ways for us to love and to care for ourselves. An important way to love ourselves is to nourish and care for our bodies, eating healthy foods and exercising regularly. Your body is where you live 24/7/365! You may want to “treat” yourself to things like a massage, a facial, a pedicure, a vacation or just a nice leisurely walk.  You can drink from your heart by being in the practice of using positive affirmations. Take some time to come up with the qualities that you most want to embody. Choose two or three to focus on for any period of time and love yourself more. Taking breaks and having fun are important, whether alone or with a friend, you deserve a break today, don’t work yourself too hard, be kind, compassionate and understanding to yourself!

Acknowledge yourself, it’s healthy to bring a heightened level of awareness into your life concerning your success! Say something lovingly to you about you! “Drink From Your Heart!”

I Am Who I Am!

Here’s a daily Mantra that has served me well and I want to share it with you!

I am who I am, what you see is what you get. I am what I say I am and I live in the truth, you can’t change me so please do not try. Don’t criticize me; and I think you need to know…before you go there, that trying to put me down, in an attempt to fit me into the limitations of your box, is a total waste of your good time and energy. It will be far easier for you to accept me as I am rather than try to make me who you want me to be. You don’t have to agree with what I say or do. Just accept me as a human being working on becoming a better me.

I am weak, have sinned, failed and made many mistakes in my lifetime. These attributes, flaws, and differences, however, are all a part of my unique human experience. I will never be perfect, maybe not even the person you want me to be or become. But I will continue to be the authentic me…for that is all that I was designed to be. And as I accept you for who you are, all that I ask is that you also accept me for who I am. We can be friends and unconditional in our love for one another. We can enjoy our lives together and share on a much more empowering level. I am not a bad person just because I do something that might be perceived and labeled “bad.” I am only a person who has committed a bad act. I’m not a good person when I do positive things; I am just a person who has done something positive. I accept myself regardless of my successes or failures. I am comfortable being myself without trying to prove myself. I can critique my actions without criticizing the outcomes. I can compliment my behavior without being self-centered. I believe that accepting and embracing my uniqueness is better than trying to prove and/or berate myself. I humbly admit that I have my weak points, but they do not define who I am. I do not feel the need to define who I am nor do I seek to be defined…I am just diligently working on being more refined.

Success is great but it doesn’t make me a better person. I will not, at any time, struggle to prove that I am a good or bad person. “I am”…nothing more, nothing less. The best and most empowering thing I can and will do is to be who I am as I continue to grow into who I will ultimately become. With an open mind and loving heart, I am who I am and openly share the value of being human and accepting myself with you. And, as I grow into a better me, “Enjoying A Better You” is what you are being challenged to do. Let’s mellow into the moment together and grow into a new and exciting phase of our lives fully fueled by the knowledge that we can embrace self-acceptance and joyfully welcome it into our lives.

Just Let It Go, You’re Only Hurting Yourself!

Do you feel disrespected? Are you harboring old wounds? Frightened? Angry? Ashamed or Guilty? Need to forgive someone or apologize? Need to treat yourself better? Need to let go? Are you stubborn and blaming others? Do you take responsibility for your crap? Are you loving you some you? Are you respecting yourself and others? Do you consider yourself positive but speak negatively? Are people bringing you negative energy! LET IT GO, YOU’RE ONLY HURTING YOURSELF! The other person probably doesn’t know how you feel or even care! I’ll say that again so you can hear me. “The other person probably doesn’t know how you feel or even care!”

Sit down and tell yourself the truth about it all!

Tell yourself the truth, the truth is absolute, the same today as it was yesterday and will be tomorrow, it’s eternal. When you’re courageous enough to examine the truth! You’ll eliminate needs to be anything other than what you are. The Truth allows you to just “BE!” If you really want to make a difference! Look in the mirror and tell yourself the truth about you! He who lies to himself is a fool! Are you a fool? Take responsibility for the role you’ve played in the drama in your life. You were there and you participated in the event. So don’t say you had nothing to do with it, you had something to do with it! Whether it was major or minor is irrelevant, take responsibility for your part. Forgive yourself for the things you’ve done and forgive others for what they’ve done to you. Holding on and harboring the past will only filter over into every aspect of your life and ruin future relationships. Forgive and move forward and the past can’t follow. Negativity and positivity can’t occupy the same space, so choose to be POSITIVE! If you allow the negative past into your present life, you’ll open the door to all the past crap to enter also, just let it go, you’re only hurting yourself!

Then make a BEHAVIORAL CHANGE that will change the world around you. Hopefully it’ll have a positive ripple effect on the people you meet and pay forward! Be the type of love you want to receive. Open your heart and soul to the abundance of love ever-present in your daily life. It’s boundless but can’t get in unless you’re open. So welcome love into your life and have a wonderful day. Love is your natural existence, so come home, love is waiting for you!

Tell yourself the truth, face it and do it soon, just let go, you’re only hurting yourself!

Believe In You!

There are times when we believe in everything and everybody but ourselves. We tend to search for mentors, role models and teachers, when they all exist within us, we’re complete.

We’ll never receive a more brutal beating than the one that we inflict upon ourselves. We make one mistake and we count ourselves out before we get started. He who says he can and can’t is always right!

We beat ourselves down into a state of depression and don’t forgive ourselves and move forward. Dwelling in that shallow puddle of water and have misery for breakfast, lunch and dinner.

But you must lift yourself up and move forward forgiving yourself for errors, change the behavior and remember when you do something bad, it doesn’t make you a bad person. It makes you a person exhibiting a bad behavior, so change the behavior and love yourself more. Have compassion, love and kindness for your being. This should be the starting point of your day and all that enters your day.

Have you cried? Well if you cry about something today, don’t you cry a minute past midnight! Crying may last for a night, but joy comes in the morning (Psalms 30:5). Dry your eyes at midnight it’s over.

Rise up, love yourself and put a smile on your face. It’s a new day and joy is here! Today get your bibles and read Psalms 30 completely and extol God for lifting you up each day to live and share the love which is your natural existence. Believe in you, trust in you, have faith in you!

1.  Be open and honest with you about you!

2. Have faith your dreams will come true, move towards them and wait earnestly!

3. Don’t worry or become anxious, it blocks your connection with the divine spirit from which all blessings flow!

4. Discover the Authentic You by living in a state of conscious awareness and the truth!